Secrets to Creative Success

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There are a few things that people think about as they head into a new year. Usually health and fitness, their life path and career success. Let’s talk about what it is to be a success. Does it mean money, prestige, a corner office or to be be successful requires us to do more and be more of ourselves in order to bring success into our lives? What are the secrets to success? 

On www.myemma.com I came across an article on the “10 Secrets to Success” from the worlds top marketers. Bringing the reader quotes and ideas from people at the top of their field. My Emma is a plethora of resources for marketing and learning to bring your skills to your audience. 

What does this have to do with creativity? a creative person, our marketing is in our work. The same rules apply on another level and by bringing in these skills we can create personal and possibly professional success to our creative paths. Creatives often focus so much on their creative work they can forget the marketing aspect of their careers. A creative persons work deserves to be seen and recognized by an audience, even if it is an audience of ten or a thousand. 

The first rule: Be human. Remember we are all human.

“Marketing is all about creativity, humanity, and authenticity.”

Jay Baer Convince & Convert

We all have basic needs and desires that drive us. Try to be reachable, accessible and understandable. That doesn’t mean changing your work, it means be you in what you are doing and no one else. Bring all of who you are, and your humanity into the creative work that you bring into the world and you will find the right audience for your work. You need to be authentic in your creative work. 

Another piece of advice: Narrow your audience, don’t expand it. You will never appeal to everyone and the great news…YOU DON’T HAVE TO!


“GO NARROW, NOT BROAD: WE HAVE A TENDENCY TO THINK ‘IF I GO BROAD, I’LL CAPTURE MORE PEOPLE.’ BUT THE MORE TIGHTLY YOU DEFINE YOURSELF, THE EASIER IT IS FOR YOUR PEOPLE TO FIND YOU.”

TAMSEN WEBSTER

Those who relate to your work will find you and become your biggest fans. Look at Amanda Palmer as a great example of success and unusual expression. Her fan base found her and our some of the most loyal fans I have witnessed. Her success is based on her style. She marketed to the people that would love her work the way that it was. She did not try to reach everyone. You don’t either. Create what you want to create with all your heart and your people will find you. Those are two big secrets of success. 

If you want the other Eight secrets, head over to My Emma and check out this eye opening article and their other resources as well that can help you on your way to becoming a marketing success with your own creative works. So often, creatives overlook this aspect of their work and wonder why they aren’t selling and why they aren’t getting their fans. You have to consider the marketing aspect of the creative side of work, the business side to really get yourself out there into the world. You success is in finding your people and creating a loyal fan base. Money, prestige and even the corner office can be nice, but if it isn’t what you are aiming for, then it isn’t real success. 

Friday Interviews: Zev Levinson, Author

Friday Interviews: Zev Levinson, Author

Today I am excited to bring to you an interview with friend and author, Zev Levinson. Zev and I were introduced through my friend Jen Rand, and through them I found my way to the Lost Coast Writers Retreat. I have had the joy of getting to know Zev as a person, a poet and a writer. His writings are eloquent and colorful. He brings images to life in his poetry, especially in his new book that walks the reader through the  beauty and history of Humboldt county. His book, Song of Six Rivers, is a delightful epic poem to read and a visual experience with pictures from the archives of Humboldt State University. His writing comes from a deep connection with the Humboldt region through his working and teaching.  Zev is also a teacher of poetry working with California Poets in the Schools and works with the Redwood Writing Project.

1) Please introduce yourself to us. Tell us about your work with California Poets in the Schools as well as the Redwood Writing Project.

I have been with California Poets in the Schools since 1998. It’s one of the largest writers-in-residence programs in the country. We go into schools, hospitals, juvenile halls. I get students to read and write a lot of poetry. I’m in a classroom or several classrooms for a week at a time. Since I mostly do this for my living, as well as being an editor, I sometimes stay a week at a time in places far enough away from home to preclude commuting.
I’ve been with the Redwood Writing Project [RWP] since 2001, which is part of the National Writing Project. When I joined, its two main objectives, as I understood, were teachers teaching teachers about writing; and also that if you teach writing, you should be a practicing writer. With the RWP I have been teaching the Young Writers Camp since summer 2003, and the main poetry teacher for their Young Writers Conference which is a separate event. When I teach in the schools, I always advertise RWP’s Young Writers Programs, so we get a lot of crossover signups for these events.

2) What drives your passion to stay involved with these projects?

[Laughs] I don’t know what else I would do. I was on the path to become a professor and that didn’t work out. Teaching kids was going to be a side project. I received so much positive feedback from teachers, principals and parents that I kept teaching. I keep my calendar filled with teaching nearly every week during the school year. I have seen thousands of young minds light up when I present poetry and love the interchange that happens. All kids are ready to be poets if they aren’t already, whereas adults have walls up. Even when I walk into a place with reluctance and resistance, I try to break the ice really quickly and blow their minds really quickly. Most of the time, one hundred percent of the students get on board pretty rapidly. It’s been impossible to want to turn away.

3) Let’s talk about your new book. Tell me about the title of your epic poem, Song of Six Rivers.

It’s about the area I live, Humboldt County, in the far north of California. With the title, I had some guidance from Jim Dodge, a great local author. He encouraged me to settle on a title that didn’t specify a politically mandated name like “Humboldt County.” The area where I live is called the Six Rivers region or the Humboldt Bay region. We have the Six Rivers National Forest, emphasizing six main watersheds. It sounds good and people know the area. It’s a bioregional name. The poem is an ode to the region as well as to Guy Kuttner, who is its muse. When I was searching for the right title, Bob Sizoo, former codirector of the RWP, suggested it.

4) What are your connections to Humboldt County and what does that bring to your writing?

I haven’t lived here my whole life: less than thirty years. But I am deeply connected to this place. I moved away, and came back, and never want to leave again. Humboldt is a special place. It has very beautiful natural surroundings, rural, with a small population. We’re on the ocean; we have the mountains and the forests. There’s a strong sense of community with people helping each other a lot. I bonded with the place quickly. When I moved here I became Dan the Flower Man, selling flowers in Arcata and Eureka. That’s how people knew me. Then I kept morphing into one thing or another, mostly a teacher and writer.

5) Can you tell my readers about Guy Kuttner and what is his significance to your poem? What is your dad’s influence in the poem?

Guy passed away about seven years ago. He was an educator, naturalist, peace activist, and one of the founders of the Lost Coast Writers Retreat. Bob Sizoo originally created the retreat through RWP, mainly for teachers. When funding dried up, a group of us turned it into a retreat for writers with published authors presenting workshops. It was a lot of work and we had to charge campers much more than we do now. We would have meetings in Guy and Cindy’s living room [Cindy was Guy’s wife]. Guy kept saying that if this was too much work, we should just rent Camp Mattole by ourselves and let it be a collective with our own workshops.

The year we decided to change it to a collective, he died suddenly. He was stricken with a rare disease and within a few weeks he was gone. He was a really powerful presence. Several hundred people came to his memorial. He was uncompromising in his beliefs, kind, loving, gentle, and changed our community. He had a big personality. When I began to write the poem, I was nearing fifty, wondering about my own legacy and what I would leave behind when I go. In the poem, I am asking why am I here, what am I doing, is my teaching in the schools enough? Guy responds by speaking to me from the beyond and instructing me to sing of these lands that we both love. He was a mentor figure to me as well as somewhat of a father figure, being twenty years my senior.

My father was also a community leader, a professor, a cantor in a synagogue, and he died when I was fourteen. He was in a car accident, then a coma for four months, then died. A thousand people were at his funeral. So that has always been a part of my psyche. He was my role model who left behind this legacy. He was also a published author, and there is still a Robert Levinson Memorial Lecture every year at San Jose State University where he taught, as well as a library named after him. There is all of this legacy in my life. As I was working on the poem, I was asked to work on the third edition of his book, The Jews in the California Gold Rush. The first edition was published while he was alive, the second one after he passed. Now a third edition was requested by the Commission for the Preservation of Pioneer Jewish Cemeteries and Landmarks in the West.

It was the first time that the text was digitally scanned, which caused a whole riot of errors and I had to go in and correct them, comparing one text to another, all the while working with an editor from someplace else through email. It turned out to be a complicated process. The book took four years to put together. While I was writing the poem, I was very present with my father as well. You might say that editing his book was my first collaboration with him ever. It was a deep process to read his words over and over.

It had taken me decades to read his book in the first place, telling myself I wasn’t too interested because it was dry history. Of course I was in denial, not wanting to get that close to him after he was gone, open up the wound. When I finally read it, I could hear his voice speaking every sentence and it was as though he was talking to me. So I read it very, very slowly and savored that. Then he unintentionally walked into the poem. He is not as present as Guy, but the two books came out around the same time.

6) What inspired you to take on the project of writing an epic poem about Humboldt?

I was wanting to leave something memorable behind. I didn’t know it was going to be as long as it was, but I did want it to be somewhat epic in scale, to honor the land. The poem spontaneously formed as I continued to work on it. I didn’t always know where it was going. The more I went with it, the more I realized it was a sweeping view of the Humboldt area. In order to name so many places here, and to honor the Native Americans living here now and the ones who were decimated, it was going to take a lot of lines. I guess it was two things: I was going for something big, and the epic suited itself to my needs. And it was also fed by my love of British Romantic poets who wrote epic poetry. I was also inspired as a teenager by progressive rock, musicians who created great epic songs. I felt I was working in a true vein. When I was younger, before I was serious about or schooled in poetry, that kind of poem would come to me. The musicality of meter and rhyme works well for me.

7) How does teaching influence your writing?

I’m inspired by the natural beauty of the places where I teach. And teaching and writing feed each other. I couldn’t have written Song of Six Rivers without the teaching aspect. Since I go all over the county to teach, and sometimes stay for a week at a time in faraway communities, I take walks every day, asking the locals about good places to explore and what secrets I ought to know. I get invited into people’s homes for dinner, and get to know the communities intimately.

Although my poetry isn’t always inspired by teaching, I am grateful that poetry has become the main focus of my life. As I’ve gotten older, poems have come less spontaneously to me; so one of the benefits of teaching is that during writing time in the classroom, sometimes I can work on my poems while students are writing theirs. I might chip away at a poem for years while working in schools.

8) Tell me about your writing routine. What was your process in writing this poem?

My routine is not as rigorous as I wish it were. This is mostly because I’m a self-employed freelancer who spends a lot of time organizing my work. Being an editor and a teacher means that often I don’t have time for my own writing. When writing an epic poem, you can’t just go back to it a day at a time because there is so much to read through, to recall, to mull over. I need chunks of time, and that’s what’s so valuable about the Lost Coast Writers Retreat and having some summer vacation. It gives me time to reorient myself and remember what I was trying to say.

I started working on Song of Six Rivers at Camp Mattole [Lost Coast Writers Retreat] because it has become a sacred place for all of us who knew Guy. Cindy even had us release some of Guy’s ashes at our favorite swimming hole. That’s where I began working on the poem. I finished half of it by the time the retreat ended. I wrote the other half over the rest of the summer. I made myself keep working on it. It was such a challenging process and I wanted to run it by someone like Jim Dodge, who has such a keen eye and ear.

He tore it apart. He’s kindhearted but an unforgiving critic. He didn’t finish reading it, as other things had come up in his life. He said he’d read the rest if I wanted, but I was trying to be generous and I regrettably told him that I got the overall gist of his comments. I wish I had had him continue with detailed critique. Besides some helpful ideas regarding logic, he pointed out weaknesses in the meter and rhyme scheme and stanza structure. So I ended up rewriting the whole thing. The first draft was around four hundred and fifty lines but I tightened up the meter, changed the rhyme scheme and the stanza structure. It took another year to finish it.

9) How did you discover that writing was your path?

Writers always say that it’s something they can’t help but do. The hard-core ones say they would rather not be alive than not write. I’m not so extreme. When I was younger I was inspired more by music. Music was probably more important to me than poetry. Then a shift came and I didn’t care about the labels: musician, writer, etc. When I was a teenager, poems would just come to me, and that continued into my twenties and beyond. As for a career, I wasn’t sure. I always loved reading and writing, so I chose the path of becoming a teacher of writing. The writing grew over time. I think I would have written some book on my own—and I have put together unpublished collections over time—but I was lucky and discovered the Redwood Writing Project which led to the Lost Coast Writers Retreat. Without those, the epic poem, the book, wouldn’t have happened. Now that it’s out in the world, I feel more that being an author is a possible career, enjoying working hard to get other books into the world.

10) What is the most difficult aspect of writing?

Getting the words perfect. A writer wants to share inspiring ideas. It’s not hard to share these, but to share them in a powerful and intriguing way . . . that is the great challenge. And poetry has to be musical as well. It has to sound good or history won’t remember it. I like to push language. I like to make it unique, sometimes verging on language poetry, where the emphasis is on the sound and normal channels of meaning are not always accessible.

11) Did you plan on Song of Six Rivers to also be such a visual book?

No. I was only thinking of the poem. When I presented it to Kyle Morgan at Humboldt State University Press, he liked the project. But he also saw it as a visual book, with accompanying archival photos from the library’s Special Collections. I said yes, even though I thought the poem stood on its own. I was pretty naïve about that, since many people buy the book for its visual appeal. There was a team at HSU that put the book together. CM Phillips and Ashley Schumann went through over twelve thousand photos that the public mostly hadn’t seen before, and matched photos with the text. In the end, forty-something archival photos were used, as well as four contemporary photos from local photographers. My partner, Jennifer Rand, also helped with the design a bit. Now it is this beautiful book to look at. Pharmacies even buy it because it’s not just a poem about the area; folks can look at it and see the pictures too. I am now much more open to books being visual.

12) Are you working on another project?

Well, I can’t talk about the subject of the current project. I’m one of those people for whom talking about it lets the air out of the balloon, takes away the magic of creation. However, I am working on something that is twice as long as the last one. I learned so much about the process of creating an epic poem that I am happier as I put this one together. I don’t know if I’m going to keep writing epic poetry, because a thousand-line poem takes years to put together. One- to two-page poems still pop up from time to time, when they want to. I also have a couple of other writing projects that aren’t poetry: books on different topics.

It was a pleasure to interview Zev, and to share his writing with you. Here are the links to purchase his book. If you want to support and independent book store you can request the book through IndieBound.org or you can purchase through Amazon, Song of Six Rivers. Visit him at his website: www.zevlev.com

Ten Tips to Undo Creative Blocks

Ten Tips to Undo Creative Blocks

Creative blocks. They can happen to anybody. They are frustrating. Discouraging. Even maddening. Blocks can happen when we are stressed, when we feel disconnected, or even simply unmotivated to be creative. However, creative blocks also hit us out of the blue. We just wake up, sit down to create and realize that there isn’t anything there in our heads to create. This sometimes happens when we have been working and working without a break.  Creative blocks can be a wake up call that something in our creative life needs to change or be shaken up a bit. What are the keys to getting unblocked? I have compiled a list of ten ways that you can use to move through the block and back into your creative groove.

  1. Change the Scenery: If you work at home or studio, go someplace else. Work from a coffee shop or at the park for a little while. Pack up the minimum amount of supplies you will need and just go. I have, on a few occasions, packed up scissors, glue, papers, and cards and gone to Starbucks around the corner. I sat with my coffee, people watched and made cards. I have even taken my laptop and knocked out two to three blog posts at a time sitting at a coffee shop. For some reason, I can sometimes tune in easier there than I can at home.
  2. Do Something Different: If you are a card maker that uses stamps, try your hand at some watercolor paints or clay. If you are a writer, it might mean your mind needs a words break, so color or draw. I find that I keep a few projects on hand that aren’t on time schedules that I can pick up and do when I am stuck on writing or card-making. It breaks up the monotony of the same thing. Even when you love it, sometimes the brain needs a break.
  3. Come out of Isolation: I have noticed many creatives get busy and into a project and they isolate themselves to get their work done. They are in “the zone”. This is great but if you suddenly find yourself stuck instead of creating, one of the things you can do is socialize. It can be with your family or friends. Go out to lunch with someone you haven’t seen for a while. Sit down with the kids and see what is going on in their world. It is so easy to become intensely focused when we are zoned in on a project that we forget we need the company of other people sometimes.
  4. Read Inspiring Blogs/Posts: Even if you read it before. I have gone back and read a post more than once because I found it inspirational. I also make sure there are bloggers that I can go to for some inspiration when I need it. Some great ones are: Jamie Riddler, Tery Lynn, Lamisha Serf- Walls, Leonie Dawson, and Chris Guillebeau. I am sure there are more. I discover them all the time using Pinterest. It is also a great place to go for some inspiration and ideas when you have creative blocks.
  5. Practice Mindfulness and Affirmations: This is an easy one to forget to do when we start or end our day. It is so easy just to jump into our work or to crash into bed that we often forget the importance of being mindful and practicing affirmations. I put these together because I use them as a practice at the same time. When I write my affirmations down, I am practicing being mindful of my goals and dreams. I create an awareness of them in conscious mind so that they stay with me through out the course of the day. Done right, I use them to reinforce choices/decisions that need to be made for the interest of myself, my family or my dreams. Mindfulness can also be just breathing for five minutes in silence. Allowing yourself to simply be in the moment before you jump into work or fall into sleep. Affirmations, ones that are believable to ourselves, have been shown to be a positive force in following our path and reinforcing a positive outlook on ourselves and our lives.
  6. Read: Pick up a book. It doesn’t really matter what kind it is so long as it is fun and enjoyable to you. Let the book inspire you in one way or another. I remember I was so inspired by Eat Pray Love, I bought copies for my co-workers and friends. Over the years, I have found inspiration in many types of books. I love Brene’ Brown, Chris Guillebeau, SARK (Susan Ariel Rainbow Kennedy), and just finished You are a Badass! (which I LOVED and was totally inspired by). On the other hand I am currently reading Simon Sinek’s, “Start with Why”, which is inspiring in a totally different way. I also find inspiration in poetry such as Billy Collins and Mary Oliver. Reading can be a great source of inspiration and bring a resurgence of creative energy.
  7. Get Physical: Move. Go for a walk. Put on some music and dance. Go for a bike ride. Visit the gym. Just move your body. The movement of our bodies does great things for our brains, producing all kinds of happy chemicals that help our brain work. When I was in college, I worked with an instructor who would give us breaks during long working periods. She would guide us through movement and simple dance exercises to help us refocus our brains and wake us up after sitting for so long. If your creative work is something like dance or theater where you are already physical, try some other type of movement. Do something you normally would not do to break up the routine.
  8. Nourish Yourself: Have you eaten anything? Did it nourish you or was it a quick sugar rush and now you are crashing? It is so easy to get into a zone of concentration and forget to properly take care of our body. It needs fuel. Our brain needs fuel. It is easy to grab the sugary treat at the coffee shop or just drink a cup of coffee at home and start working but our bodies need more than that. They need nutrients for sustained energy. That way we don’t crash. I am not innocent in this. There have been plenty of times I have skipped breakfast or had a sugary muffin or slice of pumpkin bread. However, I have been on a new path, food wise, and have begun to learn the importance of balanced eating, especially not skipping breakfast and including more protein. I didn’t realize it but for years I have been protein deprived. I added some more vegetarian substitutes and protein shakes to my diet and it has made a huge difference. If you are feeling blocked because you are crashing, check what you are eating.
  9. Make Connections: Connect with other writers, artists, card-makers, dancers, or have a mixed group of creative minds. But connect with people who know what it is like to get into the creative zone. Other people who understand creative blocks and failures. Connect with them in person or through social media but connect. It is awful to feel alone and as though no one understands the creative quandary you may be in. Hang around like minded creative people who you can bounce off ideas and may offer constructive criticism. Get Connected.
  10. Know this will Pass: Creative blocks, like many things in life, will pass. They happen, we work through it, instead of fighting it, and then we move forward. Just keep reminding yourself that this is only temporary. The creative block will pass and you will keep going.

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Ten Minute Self- Care Rituals

Ten Minute Self- Care Rituals

The phrase self- care is abuzz everywhere. Therapists are recommending it to clients, as are coaches and spiritual teachers, even in some places of business, the phrase is being used to make sure employees are taking care of themselves. What does self- care mean? The act of self- care is to attend to ones own mental, physical and *spiritual health. These are key components of human existence. When we don’t attend to our personal needs for whatever reason, we can slip into depression, become angry and bitter, disappear into isolation, or fall to unhealthy habits such as drinking heavily or using drugs to hide how we are feeling. Caring for ourselves is shown to improve mood, connectedness with the world, and improve our physical well-being.

What does self- care look like? It can look like many things. For example hiking in the woods, to yoga, meditation, or reading a good book. The possibilities are as many as there are people that make up the world. One of my favorite forms of self- care is curling up someplace with a book and reading until I lose track of time. (Rarely happens but when it does, it is a treat.) However, we don’t always have long periods of time to attend to our self-care. We may only have the amount of time that it allowed on a work break or in between classes, or between picking kids up from here and there. I have put together a list of ten minute self- care ideas that you can do on your own or with the help of a smart phone, or a couple of simple tools.

Meditation: This is one of the most obvious ones and the one I seem to hear that most people are afraid to try. They are afraid they will fall asleep or do it incorrectly. What I have learned is that there really is no wrong way to meditate. It is all about taking the time to find a way to reconnect with yourself and if you believe in one, you higher power. It can be as simple as focusing on your breath for as little as five minutes. Letting thoughts go as they pop up instead of keeping them around to interfere with your quiet reflection. Another great thing to use is your smart phone and download any number of Apps that will guide you through a meditation. I currently love the App Calm. It plays soothing ocean waves when you open it and you can select different meditations that last about twelve minutes. Or use your computer or phone and go to YouTube to find an abundance of guided meditations that last from five minutes to an hour. One of my favorites for when I am particularly cranky is one called, “F*** That”, a two and a half minute mediation that lightens my mood when I need to let go of something that is bothering me.

Mindset Work/Affirmations: I love writing affirmations. They got me through some really rough times. I love them so much I currently have three decks of cards with different positive affirmations on them for sale on Etsy. I still work on affirmations (almost) daily. I do forget to do my mindset practice and it throws me off a bit. But working with a practice in the morning, for me, helps set my day up to be more positive and invites into my life the things that I want. I am not talking about just material objects, but ideas such as experiencing more kindness or compassion. When I write down what I want, I tend to look for it in my day on a subconscious level. I can spend around thirty minutes on my practice, however, the simple act of reading or writing affirmations to start the day doesn’t have to take more than ten.  Sometimes, I just pull a card or two and reflect on them in journal writing or in a meditation.

Get Moving: Our bodies need to move. The more they stay at rest, the more they want to be at rest and over time, we end up feeling worse. Exercise/ Movement, even in small increments has shown to have positive results on our mood and our physical health. In this article by Forbes, a study is cited that shows that even a ten minute stationary cycling experience at a moderate level showed improved health benefits. When we physically feel better, our moods tend to be better as well. A peer counselor I knew in the mental health field used to say, “Take your a** and your mind will follow.” So throw on some music and dance your heart out for ten minutes, walk, or ride a bike. Make those ten minutes count for your physical and mental well-being.

Develop a Creative Practice: Acts of creativity are good for our minds and our souls. We are born to be creative people. It is part of who we are. We are inventive and innovative. A creative practice does not mean you have to sit down and devote hours to a painting, though you are welcome to. It means we set aside time to let our imaginations out to play. This can be done in any number of ways. The boom in the coloring book market for adults is born from the discovery that even the act of coloring an already drawn picture, is an act of creative work and causes us to engage our imaginations.You can doodle, take out watercolor paints, or even use play dough. Play dough can be kept in a desk drawer and taken out to use during a ten minute break.  So can color pencils and a coloring book. Looking for something a little more challenging, a painting does not have to be done in one sitting. Break it up into smaller pieces of time that you can fit into your schedule. Creativity is an act of playing and we need that playfulness for our spiritual and mental well-being.

Eat Mindfully: This is a harder one but can have benefits to your physical and mental health. We often rush through meals, not really tasting what we are eating as we run off to the next thing on our to-do list. I know I used to do this regularly. However, I have begun taking the time time to taste my food. I take smaller bites, and therefor eat more slowly, setting my utensils down between bites. I realized I feel full sooner and am more satisfied because I actually tasted my food. I am not wanting for flavor because I was able to enjoy what was already before me. In slowing down and realizing I am full, then I stop eating. So often, we (in general) eat until we are stuffed and we can’t possibly eat another bite. By then we have consumed more calories than we needed and we, usually, feel like we can’t move because we are so full. Mindful eating keeps that from happening. I have more leftovers now, and I am ok with that. I am learning that I don’t have to eat my whole plate (an idea that was instilled in me as a child by my dad and step-mom.) It is a freeing way to eat. Paying attention, being mindful bleeds into other areas of our lives over time, and I am learning the art of slowing down and not rushing through everything.

These are five, fairly simple, and easy to implement activities to attend to your self- care. Only you can be responsible for your self- care. It is especially important if what you do during your day job is to attend to other people’s needs such as being nurse, a therapist, or a teacher. I am sure there are more out there. But we can only be our best self if we take care of our own needs as a person. I challenge you to pick one and try it today to see how it feels to take ten minutes and devote it to the care of you. Just you. Dance. Buy a coloring book. Listen to a meditation. Eat your lunch more mindfully. Take care of you.

(*Spiritual does not mean religious here).

 

Fired: My Inner Critic

Most of us have heard the voice in our head.

Not the one that tells us how successful we will be, or how beautiful our creations are, but the other one.

The one that tells us, “Don’t bother painting, nobody will see” or “nobody likes what you write”, or “that blog is much better than yours”. Some days it is easy to ignore it, or turn it down so it becomes like static whispering.
On other days, for me, on the days, I am about to put a deep amount of passion into my project, the voice gets louder and louder. It is more persistent. There is no “shushing” it. If I let it, that voice will keep me from creating.
That’s when I decided to FIRE THE VOICE! (for me, it is an old bald man, wearing a sweater vest and glasses)
Here is the dismissal poem I gave to my inner critic:

Firing My Inner Critic

“I’m letting you go.
I’m saying good-bye to your harsh tones and your sandpaper words
that scrape away
the soft parts of my heart.
I’m turning away,
Leaving you standing with your arms crossed and
frown lines on your face
and tapping your foot.
Its not working for me
to have you shred my skin away and
expose the broken bones beneath
while
you hide under the bed
inside your glass house.
I’m letting you go.
I’m saying good-bye
before I pick up stones and
you and I are the same.”

He packed up his briefcase, rather reluctantly, walked out the door.
He does pop in from time to time, unwelcome and uninvited, and I send him back on his way.
Somedays, though, I beckon him. I ask him to come sit with me while I edit. He guides me then, ever so kindly. The inner critic can do things that I cannot do. He tosses out my precious lines when they aren’t quite right; he moves paragraphs, and kills of characters for the sake of the story. These are his strengths.
He has been fired from permanent employment. Now, he is just a brief consultant.